When to start dating again after break up

Anyone who has painfully been through the motions of having to get over a break up with a Narcissist, will tell you that when they come back, they always revert afterwards. Not only so, in my experience, there is not one story of someone taking a Narcissist back, where the story ended up changing for the better..

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These cycles, and these conquests make him feel alive. You must also realize that ANY type of reaction from you is considered ‘Narcissistic Supply’.

Your reaction whether that be good or bad, is irrelevant.

He likes to know he still has some kind of hold or effect on you. Refuse to react to him, and refuse to validate him!

Also, you must realize he will not change, nor will these patterns.

Whether that be new Narcissistic Source Of Supply, or old sources.

After all, it’s a life-long effort to obtain these sources, which he always use at his disposal. This is why he use every lure, and go to great measures to lure you back in, only to immediately revert after he knows he has succeeded.

The roller-coaster ride is ongoing, and will always repeat itself.

No Contact and getting support from those who have also been through it, is the only way to go when breaking free.

Much like in the beginning when meeting a Narcissist, he puts on a great act, and he uses his best performance to lure you in and win you over!

As time passes, you immediately notice a drastic change in his behavior, the way he treats you and the cycles of idealization and devaluation begin to root!

Without having the support you need, you may find it very difficult to stay away.

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